The Birth of Oak

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“Within the wild psyche are a woman’s fiercest instincts for survival. But, unless she practices her inner and outer freedoms regularly, submission, passivity, and time spent in captivity dull her innate gifts of vision, perception, confidence, and so forth, the ones she needs for standing on her own.” ~ Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Since the dawn of time up until only one or two generations ago, wimyn have been giving birth at home within their family and village. In fact, this is still the case in many parts of the world through indigineous and intact cultures, as well as by wimyn claiming their power all over the western world. Pregnancy and birth is a normal and healthy physiological process, which when honoured and revered, is the safest and most whole place for mother and baby to be.
Who Is The Instinctual Womyn?
The Instinctual Womyn is clear in her purpose and boundaries. She has the insight and prowess of the Jaguar, with the ability to understand the world from the view of the Eagle. She possesses the poise and confidence of the great Oak Tree, with the softness and attention to detail of the woodland Deer. She knows who to keep close and how to watch for predators. She protects her home, her baby and her children with a fierceness known to a great Mama Bear and is not afraid to release her fury when appropriate.
She is kind, not nice and has the wisdom to know the difference.
Pregnancy for the Instinctual Womyn is a continuation of her integrated way of being in the world. She eats nourishing foods regularly, takes rest when she tires, goes about her daily work and duties as normal, cares for those around her, meets with her sisters daily and spends time outdoors. She has her daily practices and doesn’t delay in meeting her own needs. She certainly doesn’t allow those she doesn’t know or trust near her body or baby and trusts in the divine mystery that is CREATION itself. She is a direct channel for the life force that surges through all living things, she is Mother Nature herself.
Self Led Prenatal Care
Prenatal Care at home means that a womyn meets all of her own needs, easily, with the support of wise wimyn around her.
Here are some key elements of a healthy home pregnancy:
Sisterhood & Community
Having other wimyn to connect to on a regular basis is a touchstone of prenatal health. In traditional cultures, wimyn meet everyday at the well to gather water or in the markets on their daily food runs or in the streets where the children play together freely. They know when so and so had a sleepless night or when their friend’s mother in law was being particularly annoying and so on. Sharing the ups and downs of daily life is what wimyn do!
In the absence of the physical village, we can recreate this by joining pregnancy groups, creating our own circle of friends to talk with daily, attend prenatal villages, prenatal classes and virtual chats and phone calls. We do what we can with what we have, we always have. Avoiding isolation and loneliness is so important to the instinctual nature.
Herbs
Traditional native plants have always been a potent source of vitamins, minerals and medicine for wimyn. The village midwives always knew this and this knowledge was passed to the pregnant mothers. Herbs and native plants contain bioavailable nutrients that far surpass any synthetic vitamins. Pregnant mothers knew to increase their intake of these herbs through teas, tinctures, and as additions to soups and cooked meals.
Here are a some particularly nutrient dense herbs for pregnancy that are delicious blended into a tea:
Nettle – This dark green plant grows abundantly in the Spring in our area and offers a plethora of rich vitamins and minerals.
Raspberry Leaf – Known as a uterine tonic and synonymous for wimym’s health, this plant is excellent to drink in abundance as a tea in the third trimester.
Oatstraw – Calming and soothing to the nervous system as well as an emollient.
Peppermint – Soothing to the digestive tract and a delicious addition to the above herbs as a tea blend.
Mix equal parts of the above dried plants for a delicious and nutrient dense daily tea.
Nourishing Foods
Healthy, whole foods are such a tremendous part of the Instinctual Womyn’s self led pregnancy. She must eat regularly and in small quantities to meet the growing demands of her increased energy output and growth of baby. Eating small meals regularly helps to combat blood sugar instability, regulates mood and energy levels, helps to keep nausea at bay in the first trimester and provides a steady stream of nutrients.
These days the challenge for a pregnant mother (especially one with other children) is to remember to feed herself first. Always have a basket of snacks and a few thermoses of drinks on hand.
In traditional cultures, a pregnant womyn would be fed by her midwife, mother, grandmother, sisters and other wimyn in her village. We can bring this into practice by always bringing an offering of healthy food to a womyn with child. She must be nourished.
This becomes increasingly important the more children she has and especially if she is breastfeeding another child. Every bite counts. There is no room for junk or processed foods as these lead to complications.
Foods that are easy to digest are important as the whole system slows down. Foods that are emollient so as to not cause constipation, an issue that can arise if a womyn is consuming too much dairy, animal fats, packed and processed foods.
Ideally, a mother would be consuming easy to digest nutrient dense soups and stews, an abundance of fresh greens, wild foods and herbs, in season fruits and vegetables, beans and grains as they work for her body, a small amount of animal foods if she chooses that, sprouted and roasted nuts and seeds, smoothies and fresh juices, bone broths and veggie broths, sea vegetables, fermented foods and dark chocolate.
She will know by how she feels and you will know by the vitality in her face and body. Is her colour good? How is her mood? Does she have energy to do her daily work and go for long walk everyday? How are her bowel movements and how often does she eliminate? How is she sleeping? What is her outlook on life? How does she feel in her body? Agile and strong or weighed down and lethargic? All of this and much more can be helped with food.
Every womyn is different. What works for one may not work for another. Each culture has a traditional diet and they all work, as long as they are natural.
Movement
Keeping a normal level of daily activity and increasing stamina as the pregnancy progresses is a good practice.
In Japan, after the first trimester pregnant wimyn carry on with daily household duties plus are encouraged to walk 5 miles per day. They also participate in group prenatal fitness classes weekly and swim as much as they can. The Indigineous wimyn in Guatemala walk to market each day to gather their daily foods, keep up with their homes and regularly take Temazcal, or sauna to sweat, relax and remove impurities from the body.
Walking, stretching, gardening, dancing, household chores, lifting other children are all examples of everyday, instinctual ways of moving that are so healthy for pregnancy. We never sat around in chairs or couches most of the day, a good thing to remember.
Ritual & Practice
The Instinctual Womyn has many practices that keep her connected to her spiritual nature.
Daily meditations and prayer, chanting, singing, affirmations, care of home altars, honouring nature and her cycles, saunas, journaling, talking with womb baby and dreamwork are all examples of bringing the sacred into the everyday.
Connecting to the divine keeps her faith and strength in the journey.
Time In Nature
We don’t all live in nature, but we can all access her one way or another. Wimyn in Hungary who lived in tiny flats in the city with no green space keep potted herbs and pepper plants outside the door and house plants crowding their windows.
When pregnant and living in a tiny flat in Denmark with two small children, I would paint pictures of gardens and trees and post them above my altar to look at each day. There is a way, but nature is our home and we must have a daily connection to her.
Ideally a pregnant womyn would be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, put her feet on the earth, walk for miles and howl at the moon!
Boundaries
Like the she wolf, her boundaries must be fierce and strong. She may have to limit contact with certain family members and friends with opinions or neighbours with advice. She certainly will need to curb her consumption of social media and generic entertainment in general. She is best to take up hobbies that encourage the instinctual nature to arise and connection to her clarity of mind, such as making art, handcrafts and creating beauty.
She is a temple of life itself, afterall!
Wimyn are deeply intuitive creatures that experience the great cycles of birth, death and rebirth in their very bodies, on a monthly basis. Not only that, but wimyn’s bodies have the natural ability to flow in sync with the light of the moon. When wimyn live in close connection, they begin to menstruate at the same time, offering an opportunity to support and care for one another. In fact, this is what occurred in the times of the Red Tent, when wimyn would gather and rest during their moon time, away from the rest of the village.
Today, wimyn are led to believe that their moon time is something to be controlled and contained, sometimes even denied. We are a culture that values productivity, rather than honouring cycles, hormones and emotions. It is no wonder why a large percentage of modern wimyn are disconnected from their body’s rhythms. However, we do possess the old teachings within us and they are waiting to be awakened!
We can begin to change the generic cultural understanding surrounding menstruation by simply learning to honour this monthly flow. We can add ritual and ceremony back into the lives of our young girls and wimyn. A blessing way to celebrate menarche is a beautiful way to initiate a new woman into the sisterhood and create community. Even small recognitions are empowering. All children love to look at the moon! How wonderful would it be to learn that wimyn’s bodies can be in tune with the moon’s cycles as well!
The Sacred Moon Cycle
When we lived in communion with nature, we would flow with the cycle of the moon. We can see this to be true, when we live in ways that decrease artificial lighting and closer to the earth.
Becoming in tune with our cycles means more than just birth control or pregnancy achievement. It is reconnecting with all that it means to be a womyn, including honouring our energy levels at any given time.
The new moon marks the beginning of our cycle. It is common to bleed around this time. From the onset of bleeding until ovulation, is known as the follicular phase. This is when women feel energised and creative, when most big ideas and inspirations begin to take shape. This is a good time to take on the most energy intensive projects.
Ovulation coincides with the full moon. We feel sexual, charged, fertile and open. Wimyn emote pheromones that signal our partners in the natural world.
If an egg has not been fertilized, we enter the luteal phase and the waning of the moon. We are more sensitive at this time and in tune with what may not be working for us. We can use these messages as tools for self growth and should not dismiss these surfacing messages.
Observing our moon cycle as sacred will tune our frequency into cosmic consciousness.
Natural Fertility Awareness
Natural fertility awareness is a method that includes being mindful of daily changes in cervical mucus, morning basal metabolic temperature and cervical position. These very effective methods allow us to become in tune with the various stages of our cycle, including when we ovulate. Knowing when we ovulate is an extremely empowering process! It is what will allow us to encourage or discourage pregnancy and know our bodies better.
Practically speaking, there are 3 main ways to track your cycle. One is by observing your cervical mucus and the position of your cervix. You bleed on day one. A typical cycle can be anywhere from 21-34 days, the length of the cycle of the moon. When women bleed, it is usually referred to as their ‘moon time.’ After your moon time, cervical mucus is dry or non existent. Your cervix will feel firm, like the tip of your nose. As you approach ovulation, you will begin to notice a creamy white or yellowish cervical mucus that has a pleasant smell. A few days before ovulation it will become clear and stringy, taking on an egg white quality. You may feel more ‘wet’ than usual. Your cervix will feel soft and open, like your ear lobe. It is common to feel more sensual and open, creative and energetic during this time. We want to connect! After ovulation, we may begin to feel more insular and inward. Cervical mucus will become sticky and dry, cervix firm.
It is also helpful to track your waking basal metabolic temperature, using a chart. Body temperature is generally lower before ovulation, with a noticeable spike and rise post ovulation until the start of your menses.
Beginning to connect and honor our femininity is a beautiful first step in boosting fertility. Women are such gorgeous, intricate creatures and if we learn to respect our natural rhythms, we will become more powerful versions of ourselves.
In the moon time we become more in tune with nature, and more sensitive to shifts in mood, emotions and energy movements. Taking time to rest and reflect during our flow is important. The body is meant to be in a state of deep connection at this time. When old blood has returned back to the Earth, a surge of creativity, energy and sensuality follows. Pre- ovulation is the time to tackle large projects and be social, teach, share and create. Post- ovulation, we may begin to feel insular and less energetic as we approach menstruation and the dark moon. If we connect and honor this flow, we will entirely prevent what is commonly referred to as PMS.
Painful and uncomfortable symptoms of menstruation can occur because we may be resisting the process of womanhood. These physical sensations can be an ally, a way to be guided back into the wisdom of the womb. By drawing ourselves into these sensations, we can go deep into our own existence. The blood time or moon time is a time to go within, to feel and see the messages that the womb holds. She is balanced with the tides of the oceans, and the cycles of the moons. The womb gives life sustaining blood that is nurturing to all plants and to the Earth.
Fertility Nourishment
A woman who wishes to conceive may begin to see her nutrition as especially important. Everything she takes in will have an impact on her well being, including how she feeds her mind, body and spirit.
Food wise, it is a good idea to stay nourished on whole, organic when possible and mostly local foods. To keep blood sugar levels steady, eating small meals throughout the day is helpful, just like animals in nature do. Focusing on fresh fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds and good fats such as avocado and coconut is ideal. Including soaked and cooked grains and beans can add a lot of satisfying nutrition to a woman’s body. There is a healthy nutrition plan to suit every budget, if we focus on what’s available locally.
Here are a few foods that are especially nourishing and fertility boosting:
Evening Primrose oil – this is available in capsules in most health food stores.
Good Fats – avocado, coconut oil, nuts and seeds and good quality fish oil.
Goji berries – Has been shown to increase sperm count and vitality.
Ashwagandha – known as the ‘strength of a stallion’, the adaptogenic herb helps to calm the nerves and aids the body in adapting to stress. This is very helpful during the prenatal period.
Nourishment Tea – a blend of nettle, raspberry leaf, oatstraw, rose petals and rosehip is very nourishing and prepares the womb for life. 3-4 cups of tea per day.
Mineral intake for men – we cannot forget that the man plays a significant role in the creation of life. They also must care to ensure the quality of their sperm.
Maca root – another adaptogen, this is a well known fertility herb for both men and women.
Chocolate – dark chocolate of the finest quality provides essential minerals such as magnesium, as well spirit boosting and positive overall effects on wellbeing.
Aside from gaining nourishment from foods, it is important for a healthy mother to feel connected to nature.
Spiritual Fertility
Making Space in your life
Do you have a sense of spaciousness in your life for a new baby? This is an important concept for all baby desiring wimyn to consider. We are often so busy, with work and social obligations that lack the basic capability to nurture our spiritual selves. Without time to self-care, to dream, to laugh and to create, we will barely feel like we have ‘space’ for yet another ‘demand’ on our time.
Wimyn should be encouraged to let go of responsibilities that are not serving them. All the extra ‘to dos’. Encourage getting good quality and enough sleep, less time on computers, obligatory meetings and mindless activities. Fill that space with nothingness. Freedom to take a long walk in nature, to listen to beautiful music, to take out water colours and paint, to sit and do nothing at all.
Daily affirmations and meditation
Learning to transfer fears and negative thought patterns into positive affirmations is an important ritual. It may feel silly or ‘fake’ at first, but it is effective. Sample affirmations may be: ‘I am healthy and fertile’, ‘I fall pregnant easily’, ‘I have a healthy and happy baby waiting for me’, ‘I will be a vibrant pregnant womyn’.
There are many possible variations and all should feel important and true to the mother. A special fertility birth altar is a beautiful way to welcome in a new spirit baby and provides a touchstone to come back to daily. Dreams and communication with your baby’s spirit is also powerful.
Welcoming a new life into the world can be a holistic and spiritual journey!
~~This material is an adaptation taken from the Mystical Mama Yoga book on pregnancy, birth and motherhood~~
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